The Blake and Matthew complex.

Everyday I'm reminded that everyone has a curse.

It might be your good-for-nothing job that you feel you'll never get out of. Maybe it's your awful friends you know you'll never shake off. It could be your parents that are so grounded you fear you'll never fly, and sometimes it's a toxic pattern involving your love life.

You know how it goes, you never see it coming, and it comes in all forms. My friend Kia-ra's curse involves being the one before the one, to put it so bluntly. She didn't realize every guy she dated usually ends things to be with another girl before it was way too late not to call it a pattern as we were sitting in my car drinking iced coffee. And how does one move on from that? She asked me the same thing, A trip to the beach, a new haircut, even a detox if you will doesn't fix it and it wasn't long before I realized my curse that I'd be battling with for as long as the pattern sticks.

The Blake and Matthew complex was designed to make my life difficult, and maybe some of you could resonate. Names changed of course, God forbid I get a DM from some lousy reader making me out to be the bad guy, even though I only speak the truth on here. Now, usually when it comes down to flirtationships (noun, to be actively, physically and/or romantically intimate with someone) it comes down to two different people: Blake and Matthew. Always the same type, never the same person.

Now Matthew is the kind of guy you'd bring home to your parents. He's nice, respectable, has a great job in the city probably working for some major corporate firm - and it seems perfect, doesn't it? Unfortunately, perfect's never really been my type, and it edges to the side of boring. I'm always the one who ends things, because for Matthew, he liked me a lot more than I liked him.

Blake, on the other hand always looks like a bad decision wrapped up in a pretty box. He's charming, dangerously so, with a smile that can light up a whole city, and I'll always feel more alive with a guy like that. A guy I know can break my heart in a matter of seconds, and that's usually what they do. Correction: Always.

Some call it self sabotage, others may just think I'm making it up, but how do I stop a pattern that's been circling around me for months? People want the stability of Matthew with a hint of mystery from Blake, but you almost never get both. Clearly I haven't met the perfect mix yet, otherwise I wouldn't be writing this.

Now here on How to get the guy 101 you'd think I have all the answers, but sometimes I don't. Although, I wish I did, alas you'll receive updates like always to see if this doozy daze ever comes to an end. Tell me readers, how are your love lives going? If any more successful than mine I'd presume that you have your shit together, most days I feel like I do not.

All my love,

The relationship expert.