Is hot girl summer still trending?

Everyone says it's fine to be single. That you should enjoy it while it lasts. Enjoy the attention of every guy without consequence, getting lost in the thrill of it all, but being single is like being on a rollercoaster. One moment you're on top of the world, and the next you feel like throwing up. Sometimes everything's moving too fast and you just want the world to stop spinning. Some days you're just waiting for that pen to drop, for everything to start going "downhill." And at the end of the day you never look better coming out of the over doers , the bad kissers, the no showers and the ghost-ers, than you did climbing on to that joyride.

A tip from me to you? Don't live your life by what everyone arounds you deem as accepting. You can cry over that one guy who you went out with twice. You're allowed to be upset. You're allowed to be angry, and frustrated because you've been through the ring so many times before. No one should be telling you that you can't want a relationship. That somehow trying to find the person that can understand you better than anyone else in your life is the equivalent of "desperate", "sad", "pathetic." The second we let people in long term relationships, who don't even remember what the dating scene is even like, dictate how we should feel about our own lives, is the day we lose control.

Hot girl summer is a myth. Life won't always be filled with smiles and sunsets, and sometimes you'll feel alone, and misunderstood. And in that moment, it's okay to feel that you want to be needed. Needing something and wanting something are two completely different concepts. So in wanting to have a rom-com filled summer instead of a hot girl one, doesn't make you weak or less powerful. It makes you human.

Being single doesn't equal to being alone, but it can feel that way sometimes. By all means, if you're not a relationship type A person, and you enjoy every part of the single life, then you do you. But don't expect everyone to feel the same. People are built different, and some people like being in relationships, others do not. It doesn't make you any more or less dependent.

So stop judging and just drink a martini.

Sincerely,

The relationship "expert."